How Women Can Ditch Fear, Speak up, and Live Free
Life is moving faster than we can keep pace, leaving many of us women wondering when we’ll get a breakthrough and when the world will listen to us. Satisfying our basic need of fulfilling conversations, we may find ourselves focusing on the negative outcomes and backlash of sensitive topics and words. In today’s world, powerful, effective communication is a woman’s best resource in building our health, wealth and relationships on our own terms. Join me to talk about why communication matters and the abundance and prosperity that follows when we ditch fear, speak up, and live free.
If we focus on why society has not allowed access for women to express themselves, we’ll be here all day. I'm not going there, sorry not sorry! Instead, I want to focus on how you can take control by asserting yourself. This may be the most uncomfortable thing we do in our relationships, jobs, parenting, and with family members.
Asserting ourselves looks like saying what we truly mean to say without disrespecting the other person, solely focusing on “I” statements and what you need to be complete about something. One example could look like this, “I don’t feel as though we’re doing this in a way that works (for me). What I would like to see is (insert solution). What could that look like so it works for both of us?” Openly communicating what’s really there for us lifts the heaviness of carrying withheld communication, freeing us to perform better, love better, and find what works with more clarity.
In finding our way through conversations, I often hear my clients say they don’t want to “confront” the problem or start drama. Let’s flip the vocab on this statement to get our power back. Confronting conversations are dreadful. What does “completing” a conversation look like instead? As we nosedive into the considerations for the other person’s words, it may feel confronting. What I offer is to imagine how life would be if that conversation was complete. No confronting, no drama, nothing withheld, just peace in being complete with what was said. If you’ve met me at some point in my work creating Future Empowered, you’ll know that much of my training has come from Landmark. Through this training I was able to take a step back and see my own perspective of why I fear conversations. Now, I bring communication into all of my programs so that my clients also get to experience conversations that empower them versus confront and inflame their fears.
What does completing conversations have to do with wealth building? Fancy this. Your boss just shared that the company is downsizing. Do you wait to hear the final tally or schedule with her to speak about the value you bring, the productivity of employees under your leadership, and your consistent performance? In this situation, go for gold, speak up! Stand in your future vision for yourself versus being a victim to the circumstances. If it feels confronting, practice with a friend, try it in front of the mirror, list what could possibly go right, and declare you will love yourself no matter the outcome. Wealth building happens inside these tough conversations.
Finally, to all my women out there seeking financial independence and the freedom to shape their lives on their terms, I urge you to seize control of your conversations! It's time to break free from the chains of silence and embrace the power of your voice through communication that sticks. Negotiating a salary, setting boundaries with partners or children, or asserting your needs all present opportunities to let your voice be heard. By mastering the art of communication, you pave the way for greater health, wealth, and fulfillment. So, speak up, stand tall, and empower yourself to create the life you deserve!
